Three Words Strong Women Use to Change Themselves

I keep hearing “I should” or “but” and “maybe” in my coaching sessions when I ask for accountability.

Our words have power. They shape our perceptions, mold our beliefs, and drive our actions. When you let your word become blurry, the changes you wish for yourself or others, never materialize.

If you don’t commit, you are giving your brain a way out and things won’t happen:

• You are actually unclear.

• You betray yourself.

• You give yourself a way out.

• You avoid accountability.

I once facilitated a workshop and counted 186 “but”, and no wonder nothing came out of it.

I was my biggest enemy and I wasnt sure if I could establish the clarity a facilitator needs to project. I would never commit to doing the small steps towards progress. I wanted this job as coach trainer and I was not sure if I could show up. I remembered a workshop on coaching where I needed to draw a line on the ground and check for myself how committed I was to change. I declared “I will show up and I want this job!” Then, stepping over the line, I knew, this was “it.”

This easy fix was the start of a life long journey of actual self-development, which is why I want to share this with you.

Replace “but” with “yes, and” / “I should” with “I will” / “Maybe” with “Will.”

Life can look so much different if you become aware of your choice of words.

• Replacing “but” with “yes, and”: You never make others wrong for their perspective and you get to offer yours.

• Replacing “should” with “will” gives that extra oomph, that “this is it” feeling that makes all the difference.

• Banning “maybe” takes away the excuses.

Becoming aware of your choice of words is a first small step. Will you accept the challenge?

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