3 Questions To Help You Answer you Quitting Your Job: “Should I Stay, Or Should I Go?”
When I look back at every job I left, I notice one driving theme: I was not learning anymore.
Yet leaving a job can be traumatic and hold you back for the wrong reasons:
• Loss of income
• Loss of colleagues that you loved hanging around with
• Fear of losing that part of you who identifies with the company
Loss and Fear have never been good advisors.
What are you learning?
Every story has a beginning and an end.
When you are in the middle of a chapter and you start wondering: “did they just add more pages to make the book more sellable?” The same thing applies to your job: If you are not learning anything, it becomes boring, same old, same old. You are at risk of becoming a cynic.
Conversely, if you become aware of what you are learning, you will know when you have reached the end of the chapter, and a new blank page is waiting.
The following 3 questions help you audit wether and what you are in your learning for the sake of your informed decision making.
#1. What gets you out of bed every morning?
Your motivation is very much aligned with your values and dreams.
When there is a disconnect, all you are doing is accepting that your job is just there to pay the rent. That can be acceptable for some, and for others who yearn to step into their creative selves, a very disconcerting experience.
#2. What are you learning from your Boss?
The face of the company is your leader.
Your boss is either someone who actively mentors you and wants you to shine, or someone who is manipulating communications in the hopes that everyone works harder for the sake of reaching company goals.
You can learn to be stoic with a difficult boss, and that is all there is.
#3. Where do you see yourself in 3 years in terms of having left something behind?
Marshall Goldsmith inspired me to work towards serving my community to become people who can mentor and coach others. That is all I do, day in and day out, as a trainer and mid-life coach.
Answering these specific questions might take some time. Be honest to yourself, have a conversation with someone who can tell you the truth (wives, coaches and good childhood friends are good for this), and know that you are the one to make decisions.
Leaving a job because it is “difficult” is not a good advice. Collect the data, then know that you are in power to make an informed decision, is.
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